Partnership Confessions: What Nobody Tells You Before You Partner

The lessons about partnership that rarely make it onto the conference stage.

​UNGA is full of conversations about successful partnerships: what they achieved, who came together, what was mobilized, and what others can learn.

​But some of the most useful lessons come from the partnerships that didn’t work or challenges encountered along the way.

​Learn from the lessons that only emerge from actually doing the work — what experienced partnership builders wish they had known sooner, and where the conventional wisdom doesn’t quite hold up.

​Partnership Confessions is a candid, interactive conversation about the unwritten rules of collaboration.

​Are we too quick to assume partnership is the answer? Do partners really need to contribute equally? Is consensus always a good thing? Can partnerships be revenue-generating? Can knowing when to end or redesign a partnership be a sign of success? And how do you build something durable when the organizations around the table have different incentives, resources, and definitions of value?

​Behind these questions is a bigger one: what are we willing to admit for partnerships to actually work?

​What to expect

​The conversation starts with one anonymous question:

​What’s your partnership confession?

The lesson you wish you’d known, the assumption you no longer believe, or the thing about partnership you think we need to say out loud.

​The answers become the starting point for the session.

​Alongside provocations from The Partnership Lab, participants will agree, disagree, compare experiences, and explore what happens when partnership principles meet real-world incentives, institutional constraints, power dynamics, personalities, and pressure to deliver.

​The conversation will take place under the Chatham House Rule, with anonymous contributions encouraged so participants can speak from experience rather than on behalf of their organizations.

​Together, we’ll begin building The Unwritten Rules of Partnership: a practical collection of confessions, lessons, and counterintuitive principles for making collaboration work in the real world.

​Who this is for

​People across philanthropy, business, government, development, finance, and civil society who build, fund, negotiate, or manage partnerships and are interested in a more candid conversation about what makes them work.

​What you will get out of it

  • ​Candid lessons from people who have built and managed real partnerships
  • ​A chance to test conventional assumptions about what “good partnership” looks like
  • ​Practical insight into navigating unequal investment, competing incentives, consensus, conflict, and endings
  • ​Space to share lessons that rarely make it into formal partnership guidance
  • ​A contribution to The Unwritten Rules of Partnership, built from the accumulated experience in the room

​Hosted by

  • ​The Partnership Lab – www.partnershiplab.io